All the time I hear that people go to a psychiatrist and walk out with nothing fixed. People go to a psychiatrist to so they can be fixed mentally. The problem that I see is that the psychiatrists do two things, one identify the problem without a solution and/or prescribe drugs for you. In the end they don’t fix you.

Being able to identify a problem is easy! It is like looking a word up in the dictionary. You find out how to spell the word, but you don’t find the origins of the word. What’s the point of identifying the problem if you’re not going to fix it? All you get is how to cope with the problem! COPE! No one wants to cope with a problem they want it gone. Do you want to “cope” with a boring life? NO YOU DON’T!

I have to admit that it is rare but there is some great Psychiatrist out there, they know the language patterns and they will do what it takes to solve the problem, not just identify it. Like I said it is rare.

I think how Psychiatrist become like this is by sticking their in books for too long, which leads to being out of touch with reality.

Psychiatrist hmmm….

Cheers,
Rhys

Today I was talking to a women and she said, “You really, really understand me, Rhys.”. I said to them, “No I am not the one who really understands you, the only person who really understands you is yourself”. Obviously she had a bit of a daze on her face, so I explained to her, that I have not expierenced everything she has or will expierence in her life. Therefor the only way I can get an understanding is from what she allows me to understand. Yes I can shed light on certain aspects to open her eyes to different ways at looking at the expierence, and as a matter of fact I can even make her forget them, but for me to get an understanding of what the expierence was totaly like, I would have had to been there.

Now I say this because when someone misunderstands someone they automaticaly jump to the conclusion that the person wasn’t listening, or wasn’t interested. Infact there is a good chance that they just didn’t grasp what you were saying, so they glazed over and ingored it.

If you feel that someone isn’t paying attention, try to speak up, make it more interesting, because I can bet if it is interesting everyone will listen and understand you, the story, topic or whatever.

Cheers,

Rhys

Yourself image contributes to the way you feel. If you have a healthy and confident self image then obviously you will feel good most of the time. Those people who have a poor self image usually are sad majority of the time and are unsuccessful.

A self image is the way you value yourself internally. There are certain things you can do to improve you self image dramatically, but first let me tell you my friend, the way you see yourself is only a made up representation of yourself in the mind. Now knowing this, that it is made up, you then can make up another one. How? By using the following method:

This method produces a state so you can have a confident self image in any situation.

Ok to start off:

1. Ask yourself the question, what emotional state (confident, strong, decisive) would you like to gain in any situation, so that you could feel more at your best?
2. Now imagine a bubble in front of you, like a ball or a magic sphere. Make it big enough so that you know you will fit inside of it. Can you feel it, see it, is it making a noise, is it warm?
3. Everyone has a colour that makes them feel powerful, what is yours? Make your bubble that colour. Make it radiate that colour! How does your bubble feel before you even get inside it? Good doesn’t it!
4. Think back and recall a time where you had all the qualities that you want to have at your disposal now and in the future. List them in your mind. Also in the memory take note of what you say to yourself, is the image bright, colourful, loud, warm, take note
5. Hold that image of you having all those qualities you need, in your mind, because when you step into your bubble they will intensify!
6. Take a step into your bubble, experience the act of having all and possessing all the qualities you have in that state. Listen to your words, the colours, the sounds, the sheer feeling of that time. Your bubble now intensifies it by 10.
7. Now step out of your bubble, don’t jump, step out easily leaving it intact.
8. Feel that sense of power! You want to get back in don’t you!
9. Hop back into your bubble, experience it all over again. Again take note of the colours, the smells, the sounds, the feelings, you experience while in that state. Now realise these qualities that make your bubble are yours, they always have been!
10. Again step out of your bubble leaving it intact. Now realise that whenever you need those qualities all you have to do is use your bubble. Step into it, and you will have those qualities that you need in any situation
11. You should break your state, so, What did you do yesterday? I’m curious!

This method will allow you to rebuild yourself image bit by bit. If you find yourself in a situation where you don’t feel right, blow the bubble up and step in, go for the ride! You will have all those qualities at your disposal! And more!

Cheers,

Rhys

A lot of people don’t realise that the only thing stopping them from being happy is what they allow their mind to hear. Negative language is the crap of the mind.

If you wake up every morning and look into the mirror, and say, “you’re so god dam ugly”. GUESS WHAT? YOU WILL BE! Everything you say to yourself is true. So if you say, “You are one sexy beast! Maybe I’ll carry carry a stick around with me today to beat’em off” and say it in a sexy voice, you will instantly feel fantastic, I know I do! This is because the language you say to yourself in your head/mind will determine how you feel. You don’t have to speak it out loud either just say in your mind.

If you think negative all the time, I can guarantee that you’re most probably down most of the time. You always have to monitor what you’re saying to yourself.
Cut the stinken thinken out NOW!

Say to yourself, “I am one sexy beast!”, SAY IT! I can’t even see you and I know YOU ARE!

 

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A lot of people think that they read a book on body language and all of a sudden they are an expert in reading someone thoughts. These books usually don’t mention that you have to read body language in context. What I mean by context is the factors that make up the language being presented by the individual’s body. For instance is the individual cold, sick, angry at someone.

When you read someone you have to read without judgement. You have to look at the person and then conclude to all possible outcomes, to get better understanding of what their body is saying. You will never be able to read someone exactly, because you cannot read minds, you can only understand the person better from their body language.

Yes, there are some times when someone’s body language is incongruent with what they’re saying or displaying. This doesn’t always mean that their lying, it just means there is something this person is not saying or wants to mask so you don’t see it or hear it. This kind of behaviour though, should be watched because there is a good chance the person being incongruent for a reason. So you have to take note of what you’re talking about and why are they acting like this. I say acting because that is exactly what they are doing, acting. It is not a natural display of body language.

Most body language movements that we display like folding the arms, chest out, chin up and any others are instinctual. You don’t know you are doing them half the time.

When you talk, and you use body language you’re influential, and commanding. This is because people understand body language on a subconscious level. In fact there has been research done on visually impaired and even blind people that their body language is exactly like someone who is full sighted.

If you want to understand body language, I suggest you watch (don’t stare) and try and understand what their body is saying, to come to all conclusions, and then pick one. To understand even more explain to yourself why you came to that one particular conclusion.

Cheers,
Rhys Tague

When we make decisions we go through various steps and thinking patterns to conclude to a decision. One of these steps is looking upon other people and their decisions and what they deem is correct.

This step is a direct result of social proof. The principle of social proof states that one means we use to determine what is correct is to find out what other people think is correct.

Social proof believe it or not actually contributes to a lot of decisions in our life. It can make us decide what we wear, what we eat, what products we buy and more. It also determines when will we laugh.

How does it make us laugh though? I don’t know if you can, picture yourself watching a movie by yourself, sitting there no one else around. The movie you are watching is a comedy. Is it hilarious? Or is it average? I bet average. Now picture yourself in a room full of people who are close to you and also have your sense of humour. Something funny has happened or is said. Is it a lot funnier now? No/Yes? Of course it is! This is because social proof kicks in. If one person out of your group laughs there is a good chance that you’re going to laugh. This is just a basic instinct to help create rapport amongst groups.

Why should you care about social proof though? Easy! The people you surround yourself with are the ones that affect your the most when it comes to social proof. If the people around you are negative all the time, there is a good chance that social proof will kick in, and you will be negative. Now if you be negative while around these negative people, and you’re around them quite a fair bit, not only will you be negative around these people, but eventually you will be negative around total strangers.

Ok… I’m not saying that you’re without control when making decisions. What I’m saying, is that decisions you make will be made based upon certain factors. Do you want your decisions, your actions, to be negative? I’m pretty sure you don’t. No one wants to be negative; it is a boring state of mind.

If you want to be positive and you want to make it easier on yourself. Find people who are positive! Talk to them for a while! Realise that when you talk to these people after a while their positive thoughts will be your positive thoughts. WHALA! You’re a positive and happy person.

Easy!!

Cheers,
Rhys Tague

There are different states of mind that people refer to, conscious and subconscious mind. What are they though?

We’ll start off with the conscious and subconscious mind. The conscious and subconscious are words that describe the state of mind. The conscious part of the mind you could say is the gate keeper to the subconscious part. The conscious mind is aware of what is going on around you right now. It is the one that does the retrieving from the subconscious when recalling facts, and it is also where short term memory exists.

The conscious mind can really only handle 5 to 6 things for men and 5 to 7 things for women at any one time. So when you feel in a state of confusion or there is too much going on around you, and you can’t concentrate, this is the reason. You have reached your limit of your conscious mind to keep track of what is going on. To put it in a nut shell the conscious is part of the mind that does all your day in and day out work.

Mentioned before was that the conscious mind is the gate keeper for the subconscious mind. This is because the subconscious mind doesn’t take reasoning into account. If you did not have a conscious mind to do reasoning for you, and someone told you that pigs fly, then your subconscious mind will accept it as fact with no hesitation. The subconscious mind is believed to be so powerful that it can perform up to 50 trillion instructions per second. You subconscious mind controls your breathing, digesting and any other bodily function. It also stores all your long term memories, it is where your habits, your beliefs, your vocabulary, skills such as typing and really anything else that you do without thought are embedded.

To be able to change yourself you have to know how to bypass the conscious mind to get to the subconscious. You can do this through repetition, which takes a long time, or you can use language to basically reprogram your subconscious mind, this is incredibly quick. What do I mean by language? Well has anyone said anything to you that changed you? For instance, someone gave you a quote that you thought was so brilliant, that all of a sudden you took it on board and lived by it. Let me ask you this question my friend? How long did it take you to accept that quote? Instantly or did you have to repeat it to yourself over and over. I’m guessing instantly! You changed; you might of thought different about someone or something. That instant is when the conscious mind let the guards down and passed it over to the subconscious mind, and in result changed you.

Be aware what you are letting to be passed from your conscious to your subconscious. Is it positive? Or is it negative? Because it will change you once it gets passed your conscious mind!

Cheers

Rhys Tague

To understand communcation you have to understand that the Mind is not the Brain. The Mind is infact a conception created by the Brain. The Brain is made of roughly 100 billion neurons that are linked up with 10,000 or more synaptic connections, meaning the Brain is a physical stucture. The Mind is not.

Saying that the mind is not physical, what is it then? Well it is virtual. It doesn’t exist in reality. There is an old saying that states the map is not the territory. This statement couldn’t be more true. What you see in your mind is not what everyone else sees in theirs. You might see youself as ugly, someone else though, might see you as one of the most beautiful people they have ever met.

Being able to understand this concept is a must, because to be able to understand that everything you say, think and do is a result of a virtual world, you than understand you can be anyone or anything you want. All you have to do is change your virtual world. How you do this though is through communication. The communciation you have with yourself internally.

Ok,

Let’s get started! First off my name is Rhys Tague, I live in Sydney Australia. I want to concentrate on the content, so when it comes to me that’s brief enough. If you want to know more about me please by all means visit the “About” page.

This site is going to be dedicated to communication.

What type of communication? The communication that makes you happy, makes you successful, makes you influential, makes you charismatic, bascially makes you anything you want. When you improve your communication skills you improve your relationships around you, you improve your success rate in any field, and most of all makes you a happier person. Now I’m not just talking about external communication, the type of communication you have with another person, I’m also talking about the communication you have with yourself. It is said that we talk to ourselfs up to fifty thousand times a day internally. If you can, now imagine for moment, saying all the right things to make you happy and successful, can you do that now? I’m sure you can see yourself being more successful and confident in every aspect of your life.

All I can hope is that you use my theories, methods and facts to open your eyes to a  new way of communicating at a higher level.

Cheers,

Rhys Tague